Our women’s luncheon was awesome – as always. We begin with a pot luck lunch, go upstairs for praise and worship and have a guest speaker. This month’s speaker was Cynthia Moore – Pastor Don’s wife – and boy did she give us a message that was so convicting – homework too!!! Our next meeting is November 21 and you are welcome – we begin at 1 and are pretty much done by 4. It is a good group of women, and there is plenty of fellowship and friendship.
To begin the meeting we were each given an index card and told to anonymously write a recent negative event that happened, and record what we said at the time of the event and what we said to others after the event. We passed those cards in to be used later in the meeting.
Cynthia held up the Bible and said, this is the Word of God. We have it. We need it. It teaches us. We need to hear and obey. God’s words are life to us.
1 Samuel 15:22-23 So Samuel said: “Has the LORD as great delight in burnt offerings and sacrifices, as in obeying the voice of the LORD? Behold, to obey is better than sacrifice, and to heed than the fat of rams. For rebelion is as the sin of witchcraft, and stubbornness is as iniquity and idolatry. Because you have rejected the word of the LORD, He also has rejected you from being king.”
When we do God’s word we receive blessing, favor, and He makes our paths more smooth. If we don’t do His Word our lives are not very god.
God tells us: DO NOT WORRY, and He tells us to FORGIVE those who offend us. We often say, “I can’t help worrying. How can I forgive them?” But when we don’t obey God in this we will find that worry and unforgiveness can lead to stress which leads to disease. We need to obey what God tells us or we end up harming ourselves.
BELIEVE, KNOW, TRUST God’s Word. When we do deal with our experiences through the truth of God’s Word, God works supernaturally in our lives. The more experience we have with God and following His Word, then we learn how beneficial it is, and we begin to trust God more and more, and know that He has our best interests at heart. We need to trust Him even in our bad situations. He will get us through.
To follow God’s Word in our lives means we have to KNOW GOD”S WORD. If we don’t know what the Word says, how can we follow it? We need to read the scriptures so we know what to say and believe. The Bible is the Living Word. It is not imperfect, it is the pure Word of God - it is real and accurate.
If we don’t know what we should pray regarding a situation, seek the scriptures for a story or a verse that shows us what God has promised. Cynthia also told us that when God repeats something in His Word it is for emphasis and should be taken to mean that God means it.
Our tongues speak our words and thoughts, and we need to master what our tongues say. Look in a concordance to see what God has to say about the situation, believe God’s Word, speak God’s Word. We want God’s Word to be the Word that comes off our tongues.
Even if we read scripture and know His Word, we don’t always speak it. Why? Sometimes it is our upbringing. We might have spent our formative years with people who always viewed a situation as negative. And without thinking we model ourselves after that kind of negative behavior and thinking.
God wants us to give the Glory to Him, for what He has done in us.
Cynthia shared how someone told her mother that Cynthia looks like her mom, and her mom’s reply was, “Oh poor thing.” What kind of message did that send to Cynthia? When she was growing up her best friend’s mother used to respond to every situation negatively. That becomes a habit, and we need to break the negativity habit.
Some people don’t know how to say something in a positive way. Some think people don’t take them seriously if they are too positive, that they have to be mean, negative, or strong to be heard.
We need to believe God’s Word and say what God’s Word says. Then, no matter our circumstances, we can have the peace that passes all understanding.
There is a big difference between TRUTH AND FACT.
They can run in parallel directions. The worldly and spiritual are always going on at the same time. When we perceive that something is wrong in the world, we need to put the WORD above the World. The TRUTH of God’s Word in place of the fact. The fact may be that it seems to be a bad day, but the TRUTH is that we are blessed and highly favored.
Cynthia read from a book called Hung by the Tongue Written by Francis Martin. He tells us that to control our mouth we have to control our mind and what we think. Proverbs 23:7a For as he thinks in his heart, so is he. There was more that she read from this source, it seems to be a good book, but may not be easy to obtain.
We need to accept that Scripture is literal. These are spiritual principles that the Word contains that God set forth. They are always operating. For example, the principle of sowing and reaping. Sometimes knowing these principles does not make it any easier to follow them. But God’s Word is truth, and as we follow these principles we learn that we cannot beat God at giving.
Luke 6:37-38 Judge not, and you shall not be judged. Condemn not, and you shall not be condemned. Forgive, and you will be forgiven. Give, and it will be given to you: good measure, pressed down, shaken together, and running over will be put into your bosom. For with the same measure that you use, it will be measured back to you.”
If you spend your time criticizing people, you will reap criticism and receive judgments yourself. That does not mean that we don’t judge, but how we judge is very important, and God knows our hearts.
If we want to be blessed, sow blessings to others and we will reap blessings.
There are three things that will help us with our tongues: 1) prayer; 2) awareness; and 3) work and yieldedness.
PRAYER- God helps us, we can’t do anything without God helping us. It takes time and effort on our part to learn our scriptures and open up the Word, but God will use the Word to teach us, guard us, and help us to change. Invoke God’s love.
1 Corinthians 13 is the Love Chapter – and it tells us that Love never fails. We can’t do anything without love. If our life is not moving the way we want it to, we need to check our love walk. We want things to come from a heart of love. We don’t want to act out of anger and resentment. Let our words be words of love. If we have to say tough words to someone, we may have to say them a different way so that they can be received. Speak the truth in love.
AWARENESS: We need to be aware of what we are saying. Listen to ourselves, get a monitor (a friend or family member) who will point out when we are speaking negatively. Ask their help. Tell them we are trying to learn to speak more positively and ask them to let us know when we are not. It can be tough to have someone point it out, but if we really want to change, we need to be aware of when we are being negative.
Cynthia then pointed out that there are times when we need to vent – and the way to do that is to get with someone that you have a positive relationship with and let them know that you are venting. It has to be a trusted person who can then pray with you, and one that you know that what you are venting will not be repeated to others. And when you vent, don’t do it with character assassination. Hopefully they will help you to find constructive things to say or do.
When you do have a legitimate complaint and need to speak it to someone, be aware of how you are saying what you want to say. Don’t NIT PICK OR NAG. Choose your battles. Sometimes things are not worth getting upset about. Some things are so small you don’t want to let them get you upset. Overlook the small stuff.
It does take work to change our tongues. We have to do it though, to make the effort to retrain our mouth, learn how to say things a different way, and try to learn to use positive phrases.
For example if you want your husband to take out the garbage – don’t nag and question him repeatedly, “Did you take out the garbage?” Or say something like, “You never remember to take out the garbage.” A more positive way of saying things is to say something like, “I love it when you take out the garbage. Or thank you for taking out the garbage.”
And even if a person doesn’t do the perfect job, say nice things about the good parts that they did. People are more motivated by complements than they are by negative things.
Avoid killer phrases such as: You ALWAYS….. or I’m just sick of you when you…..
Ecclesiastes 12:11 The words of the wise are like goads, and the words of scholarsd]’>
Death and hades were where the spirits went – but then death and hades were cast into the lake of fire. That was the second death. The first death is physical death, the second death is when those who desire to be placed away from God will stay eternally in bondage in hell, the lake of fire.
Revelation 20:15 And anyone not found written in the Book of Life was cast into the lake of fire.
If people do not want to be around God, their names are not in the Book of Life and they will be cast into the lake of fire.
It is our lack of spiritual understanding and spiritual immaturity that we do not realize the truth of God – even Creation shows God’s existence to everyone.
Romans 1:18 For the wrath of God is revealed from heaven against all ungodliness and unrighteousness of men, who suppress the truth in unrighteousness,
To go to hell you have to reject God, to deny the manifest truth of God, and that takes some doing for all of creation declare’s God’s existence.
Romans 1:19-20 because what may be known of God is manifest in them, for God has shown it to them. For since the creation of the world His invisible attributes are clearly seen, being understood by the things that are made, even His eternal power and Godhead, so that they are without excuse,
What is here in the world is created – it didn’t just happen.
Romans 2:12-16 For as many as have sinned without law will also perish without law, and as many as have sinned in the law will be judged by the law (for not the hearers of the law are just in the sight of God, but the doers of the law will be justified; for when Gentiles, who do not have the law, by nature do the things in the law, these, although not having the law, are a law to themselves, who show the work of the law written in their hearts, their conscience also bearing witness, and between themselves their thoughts accusing or else excusing them) in the day when God will judge the secrets of men by Jesus Christ, according to my gospel.
Romans 6:19 I speak in human terms because of the weakness of your flesh. For just as you presented your members as slaves of uncleanness, and of lawlessness leading to more lawlessness, so now present your members as slaves of righteousness for holiness.
Our flesh (mind, will, emotions) all of us is tempted and said, “yes” to sin and this was not to our best outcome. Our mind will sometimes lead us into dangerous places and cause us to make mistakes. We want to become slaves of righteousness for holiness.
Romans 6:20-21 For when you were slaves of sin, you were free in regard to righteousness. What fruit did you have then in the things of which you are now ashamed? For the end of those things is death.
The end of these things is death.
Romans 6:22-23 But now having been set free from sin, and having become slaves of God, you have your fruit to holiness, and the end, everlasting life. For the wages of sin is death, but the gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord.
When we get more spiritual our attitude toward death changes, we pray for people in a different way, and the desires of our heart changes. If we are earthbound we might pray for people to live even when it is to their detriment. After 70 years some people are ready to be with God, and they look at their lives with different eyes than those who are not so sure about death, who want to keep the person around so that they do not have to be grieved. Pastor Don said that his mom wants to live a long life only if she has her mind and her health.
We do not have all the answers and we need to trust God.
Deuteronomy 29:29 The secret things belong to the LORD our God, but those things which are revealed belong to us and to our children forever, that we may do all the words of this law.
Pastor Don described life as like a puzzle in pieces. You may not even know if you have all the pieces to the puzzle and to build the puzzle you need to start at the outer edges – at the corners, and piece them together, then begin to build the middle. We may not even have the picture on the cover of the box.
In faith we start with the outer edges and leave the rest of the puzzle up to God until we get there. Your expectations can disappoint you, for your expectations may not be built on all the pieces of the puzzle.
Pastor Don’s father, Ivor Moore, used to always say: Life is a mystery to be lived, not a problem to be solved.
Our view of sin is not the end of all life and death, but it is part of our learning process.
THY WILL BE DONE. God’s got the plan and the picture on the top of the box of puzzle pieces we have been given.
Philippians 1:20-21 according to my earnest expectation and hope that in nothing I shall be ashamed, but with all boldness, as always, so now also Christ will be magnified in my body, whether by life or by death. For to me, to live is Christ, and to die is gain.
We need to recognize spiritual maturity is a process that we go through. Our will is important and our level of maturity is important, but we need to accept this growth toward maturity as part of the process. We sometimes wonder why alcoholism, sickness, disease, dysfunctional families and things have happened in our lives. Our flesh screams out that we want the perfect life NOW. We have to die to self to attain the perfect life. Why do we admire movie stars and give them accolades for their beauty – they didn’t do anything to achieve it – it was given to them by God. And movie stars who supposedly have their beautiful lives end up doing ugly stuff. It is as we die to self and mature and grow in Christ that we begin to build the character that really matters. All the beauty and glamor without character is tarnished.
Romans 6:22-23 But now having been set free from sin, and having become slaves of God, you have your fruit to holiness, and the end, everlasting life. For the wages of sin is death, but the gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord.
This is the conclusion. We are set free from sin by the Blood of Jesus. We have the faith that sin no longer encumbers us. Yes, we will mess up and make a mistake, but our sins are covered by the blood of Jesus. Jesus has eliminated our sins. We can go before the bench and claim, “not guilty.” The case is dismissed because Jesus paid the price. If we accept this fact, we are set free, and as such have become slaves of God. We should, as we grow in Christ, sin less, recognizing our new spiritual nature. We have chosen a different master, and as a child of Christ, we do not have to sin over and over and over again. We are not serving our old master Romans 6:19 I speak in human terms because of the weakness of your flesh. For just as you presented your members as slaves of uncleanness, and of lawlessness leading to more lawlessness, so now present your members as slaves of righteousness for holiness. Our old master is the flesh. Our flesh is designed to kill us. we will sin in the flesh over and over and over and over – there is no way to stop the flesh meter, there is no eject button. It is only by the spirit that we can stop it, by saying that we have chosen a different master – now we are a slave to God.
We need to take our thoughts captive to Christ. Thought leads to sin, but it is not sin until it comes to our mouth.
We then read romans 6:23 – 7:1 Pastor Don pointed out that the Bible was not originally written in chapter and verse – and 6:23 runs right into 7:1. For the wages of sin is death, but the gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord. Or do you not know, brethren (for I speak to those who know the law), that the law has dominion over a man as long as he lives?
As long as we are in the physical body the laws of the 10 Commandments exist. Jesus conquered sin and death. He lived under the law and obeyed the law without sin. He has shown us it is possible to do this, and through Him we can. As long as we are alive we are to live by the scriptures. It is never ok to lie, cheat, steal, kill, commit adultery, use God’s name in vain, etc. We are told to not be afraid or worry. It is not ok to be stressed out. Worry is forbidden. Jesus did not say, I wish you wouldn’t worry, He commanded DO NOT WORRY.
We tend to fall into drugs, pills, drinking to escape from ourselves, and our self-imposed stress. We have to volunteer to let the circumstances in our lives lead us to the pint where we feel we are stressed. Some people say things are too much for them, and what they are saying is too much is what we consider basic life. The worry and stress is self-made. DO NOT WORRY. It is not a suggestion made by God, but a command. Worry brings death.
If we are fixing to stress don’t jump into the mess. Pastor Don told us to make sure we pray and speak with God before we get out of bed so we don’t jump into a mess.
Praying your day is blessed.
Heather