April 15, 2006
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I woke up with something heavy on my heart today, something that comes up every Christmas and Easter (Resurrection Sunday). Heather is going to step up on her soapbox, talk from her experience, and this is fully Heather’s opinion.
A phenomenon happens in many churches on Easter and Christmas, visitors who normally don’t go to church come. I dare say most churches have at least one visitor who comes solely because of the particular holiday. This is usually noted by the regulars who feel so puffed up in pride that they are not one of those who only come at the holiday, but that THEY worship year round. (Satan does his best to discourage the visitor from making this twice a year church attendance into full time church attendance and when the congregation looks down from their pinnacle of pride it serves satan’s purpose well, for it puts a barrier between the visitor and God).
Here are a few scenarios that I have actually experienced that make my hackles rise.
A Catholic Priest and many of the congregation talk about A & P Christians – Ashes and Poinsettia Christians. They will make a statement from the pulpit that there are many faces in the congregation that we only see at these times, and it may be time to come back to church on a regular basis. Usually these are Catholics who come to at least take communion at these two times of the year, but don’t come regularly. (satan loves that statement about A & P Christians for it thoroughly embarrasses the occasional church attending Catholic, reminds them of why they stopped coming in the first place, and certainly doesn’t send a warmth to the person, they leave the church condemned, and decide why bother.) Granted, the person might get convicted and come more regularly, but I bet you that the odds are almost certain that this sort of lecture from the pulpit will not convict them to attend regularly. Far better to be warmly welcoming, perhaps individually state that it is nice to see them, and that they are welcome to come back. They are missed, etc.
A church who does altar calls sees an influx of new faces. The church does their service, and then does an extended altar call because they might get a few salvations out of the visitors. The altar call goes on and on and on, and the visitors are uncomfortable, maybe some come forward to shut the person up, but they may not come forward because God has not put it in their heart yet. Remember it is not the church or pastor that saves a person, but a conviction from God and the Holy Spirit. Please know there is nothing wrong with altar calls, in fact it is important to (under the guidance of the Holy Spirit) invite a person to come forward to receive Christ. But know it doesn’t have to be in front of hundreds of people at an altar call, it can be one on one. I once attended a church with my parents when I was little. It was apparent to us that we were the only visitors, and the pastor made an altar call, and made it for ten minutes (I had a watch), I couldn’t go forward because I would have been beaten to a pulp by my father if I had, neither could my mother. My father didn’t budge. It was just an uncomfortable 10 minutes. In the car going home my father joked about how long the altar call went on and how that pastor sure tried to get us to come forward, it was a joke to him. There are times when the Holy Spirit will lead a pastor to make an altar call, but there are other times when just a seed of love has been hopefully put in a visitor, a seed that will grow and perhaps make them come back. That seed could wither quickly if they are put on the spot with altar calls that aren’t timely in that person’s life. And please don’t trounce me with this, I certainly know that it is important to have altar calls, but they have to be Spirit led.
And if you are having altar calls, please make sure discipleship is available for the newly saved person. Altar calls are not about how many notches on the salvation belt you can tick off, it is also about following up with the person and setting their feet firmly on a path that leads to relationship with Christ.
Then there is the pastor and congregation who through their studies has realized how PAGAN the roots of these holidays are and they stand up on the pulpit on these days and preach that, making sure that everybody knows that we shouldn’t be celebrating these days because of their pagan roots. Yes, these holidays do have pagan roots and in my walk with the Lord I have been changing them from holidays to holy days, but when a visitor comes in – most likely attracted to church by the holiday, is that the time to educate them about pagan roots of the holiday? I kind of am glad for the brouhaha that comes around Christmas and Easter for more people think about God and Jesus at that time than perhaps the rest of the year. If your church is one that has only members and no visitors, preach away about the pagan roots of the religion. If one visitor graces your doorpost, perhaps consider preaching a different message, say one about how much God loves us that He sent His Son to us, that this Son loves us so much that He died for us and rose from the dead so that our sins could be forgiven. We have them in the congregation perhaps twice a year, much better to share God’s love, and be grateful to that pagan holiday that caused them to step through the door in the first place.
And a note to people when visitors come. There are two tendencies, one is to look at the person and examine them, but not befriend them. A friend of mine (who still doesn’t go to church since) told me that once she went to a church and started attending. She was by herself with three kids, her husband did not come. It was around Christmas and the pastor told people to extend the hand of friendship to each other because of Christmas. Well she stood there and not one person came up to her to greet her, they greeted their friends and family. She felt so awkward that she never went back there or to any church. I am still praying for her that she finds a church that will extend love to her. She refused my invitation to attend a church I knew would love her, and has since moved from the area. And the other phenomena can best be described by a non church example. Have you ever gone to a store and walked into a department and three sales clerks descend on you, you feel surrounded, and it removes the desire to browse. It is important when a visitor comes to make them feel welcomed, and perhaps a person can come up and strike a conversation with the person, get to know them. But don’t overkill either. Let the Spirit lead.
Ok, Heather will step down from her soap box. Know that it is experiences in my past that have caused my hackles to rise. I also know that these above behaviors can occur from a genuine heart of love. I just know that as a former pagan (testimony on March 24, 2006) that these above behaviors impacted me negatively. It is only a sincere desire to really reach souls that makes me type the above. And know that I really am typing from MY experience, and this may not be another’s experience.
hisprayerwarrior pointed out something so important that I am adding it on, when people walk in we should be praying for them, praying for our pastor, and those workers who come in contact with the visitor that they will be used by God to help reach these visitors.
Have a blessed Resurrection Sunday/Easter Sunday.
Heather
Comments (25)
hi heather! just wanted to stop by and wish you a very blessed easter! hope your weekend is just lovely!
I sadly tend to agree that Satan’s greatest ally in keeping people from knowing Jesus is the “church”. It isn’t Jesus that turns people off, it is the group that has become so set in “their” ways, or have numbers and programs in their hearts and minds instead of the people themselves, that make them feel like outsiders. I think this is where home cell groups will come to be the most effective way of drawing people into a loving relationship with Jesus…because it is relational from the roots… just like Jesus. Heather, have a blessed weekend of celebrating our risen Lord.
~Sherry
of course not! ….as you know, i’m up on mine a bit too from time to time!
I’ve had some of those experiences myownself and I couldn’t agree with you more, Heather!
Sorry I don’t comment more often. I do try to keep up with reading everyone’s posts, but I never seem to have enough time for much else online anymore. 8-}
Have a JESUS-filled day!
You are so right about all you said. And it’s sad. We need to pray for the visitors and the ministers and the congregations. Have a blessed Easter. Gerrie
Amen Heather, Amen. Our old church sent out an email last week asking that children up to the fifth grade sit on the laps of the parents and all members sit on the edges of the church auditorium so the guests can sit in the front middle. The problem is, if I was at a church for the first time and a bunch of large children were all on the laps of the parents, I would think it so strange I would never go back!!!!! And how uncomfortable will it be for the visitors to have to sit in the front center of the church???
I am so very very happy at our new church that is so incredibly neat and enfolds new people in so comfortably.
I think and pray for you often (and read your blog faithfully) and appreciate more than I can say your constant encouragement and prayers and support. You know how hard it is to live this life with so much pain coming from different areas of life. It is just a comfort to me to have a fellow traveler like you be my friend.
((hugs))
Heather – I think you may need to pull out your soapbox a liitle more often. Unfortunately, I have been guilty of exactly what you describe, in either word or thought. I sometime tend to forget exactly where righteousness comes from. And discipleship must be a followup to altar calls – Jesus didn’t tell the disciples to go get decisions for Christ. A lot of valid points in your post and I appreciate the admonishment and will take it to heart. Bernie
We have at our church one person who prays for our pastors during each service. Satan will not have control over our church if we can help it! And he can’t if God is there dwelling among us.
I wonder what Jesus would say to those A&P Christians. I think he would tell it like it is. He told the crowd that followed him after he fed them – “You follow me only because your bellies are full.” He was real with them.
Joh 6:26 Jesus answered them and said, Verily, verily, I say unto you, Ye seek me, not because ye saw the miracles, but because ye did eat of the loaves, and were filled.
I think Jesus would tell them that there is no point in going to church two days a year and living your own life for the rest. He might have even called them hypocrites and sent them away. I could be very wrong, but that is my opinion. Also, he would have the right to say something like that because he knows men’s hearts – we do not. I have never had to confront somebody on that issue, so I’m really not sure what I’d say to them. I would surely affirm my gladness that they were there and invite them to return. But I think I’d also be real with the person and say, “You’re deceiving yourself if you think you can just come two days a year and be ‘okay.’” – or something like that. I would try to lovingly explain the importance of being actively invloved in the local church and the AMAZING benefits of being involved. But, like you said, it is definitely the Holy Spirit’s job to convict people’s hearts. Our job is to speak the truth in love.
I STRONGLY agree with what you mentioned about following up on those who make professions. The follow-up process is JUST as important as it is to actually lead people to the Lord.
It breaks my heart to hear about that woman who didn’t receive any welcome at that church.
You said at the end what I was thinking the whole time – it’s so important that we be praying, and not just for “special” services.
Thanks for the great, thought-provoking post, Heather!
:: Kev
RYC, Kev, I agree, if I chose now to be an A & P Christian I do not think God would be pleased, but the ones I am talking about for whatever reason have not formed a relationship with Jesus, and I think Jesus would rather that we show them love and let Him draw them back into the church. Many who come on the holidays are not those who have had a solid relationship. Even I, in my pagan of pagan days noticed Christmas and Easter, but did not know the Heart of the holy day. I think that I would want them to come back, and hopefully the love of Jesus and His incredible sacrifice and the work of the Holy Spirit would touch their hearts. Obviously they would have some need that drew them to church. Condemning would not do as much as loving though. I was a hard case to crack and God managed to reach me through love.
Heather
another observation i noticed is that around Christmas and Easter, church goers tend to have a heighten Spirituality, all of the sudden God seems so important and church made it a very big deal to use these days to get people serious about God.
i’m not saying Christmas nor Easter is not important. but in all honesty, if what they represent of Christ birth, death, and rebirth is of such significance to us… if Christ really meant that much to us… then wouldn’t these days really won’t affect our Spirituality that much? Because each and everyday we live with the heart for Christ Jesus, instead of heighten it for a few days a year? the fact we made it such a big deal is simply because Christ has not been a big deal to us all the other days in the year. (it’s a paradoxal irony: if those days are REALLY that important, what they represent/reminds us, then they wouldn’t be that big of a deal because those days are part of the collective steps that set forth our transformation to be Christians on a daily basis. the fact that we treat them so importantly is the indication because we haven’t been keeping Christ as important rest of the days of the year? hope you got all that, it’s kinda hard concept to understand)
oh and just wanted to say in my humble opinion, altar calls are useless that’s why Jesus didn’t use them. discipleship is done through the intimacy of personal evangilism, friendship, as Christ demonstrated. eg, it’s not as much a burden of a “job” for Christ to disciple the 12, He merely called them and befriended them, teaching them the truth, accountability, and fellowshipped with them along the way. are there things good that come out of altar calls? of course, many will testify it is an altar call that they made a commitment to Christ. but it is only the exemplification of God’s ability to surpass our mistakes and weaknesses that He can make good out of every situation (i think there’s a passage that said even if the gospel is preached incorrectly, God can still use it… gotta look it up)
ok, i have procrastinated some more again… ug… back to exegesis paper.. *grumble*
“rebirth”
sorry, i mean resurrection, bad word choice, dun wanna confuse anyone.
Great thoughts, Heather…I completely agree.
Have a great Easter…Jim
very well said!
Happy Resurrection Day, Heather! I agree with what you said about discipleship. So very important, that we may KNOW Him. May He delight in every heart that desires Him and let Him be known as we yield our way to His Right of Way. Grace and peace and joy in Jesus! Lois
Room on that soapbox for me too? LOL Since visiting other churches for the last several months, it’s unbelievable what we have and have not encountered. Once in our old homechurch, my dad came to visit. He is an older gentleman of 75 and since he and mother are no longer married he dresses very casually, often in work clothes which consists of khakis and a blue button down shirt, and black work shoes. It was heart breaking when the pastor didn’t really give him the time of day when me and mother introduced him. My dad couldn’t get out of that service quick enough. He’s never been back and when he comes to visit he makes sure it’s not on a Sunday. Check out my entry of April 7 to see my dad, click on “Father”. The portrait and what I wrote speak volumes. Like the sister said above, so many pastors are into the numbers game instead of the soul game (not that it’s a game). I could go on but I won’t it would be tmd. But I will say I do have an entry I’ve been letting simmer on standby for the last month….As Christian brothers and sisters in the Lord we need to pray for the church in this country daily. Seriously. This is an excellent post. Every Christian should read it. Have a wonderful, joyful, happy, Resurrection Sunday with your family!
Thanks for stopping by Hether….Happy Easter to you too. Sorry I dont get by more often and comment more often……. along with you I have a sopa box of my own…I agree with alot of what you have said…….Part of my soap box is that sometimes we as Christians stand up and profess how we want to “save the drug addict” save the sexually promiscuious” save the adulterer” etc……….yet we never leave the four walls of our church with that……. the truth is do they really want the drug addict sitting on their pews? do they really want those lustful spirits sitting next to their teenage daughters or sons? speaking as a mother of that Drug addicted son……..that loose teenage daughter……..that adulterous(past tense) spouse……..the answer (I feel ) is NO….. I didnt see any upstanding Chrisitans at that jail house telling that kid theres a better way…….. or that daughter or that hubby……. anyways….I will get off my soap box too……….HAPPY EASTER
“I certainly know that it is important to have altar calls, but they have to be Spirit led.” And allow me to add on here: Having a Spirit-led or Spirit-filled pastor is way more important than having general altar calls.
“If one visitor graces your doorpost, perhaps consider preaching a different message…” A Spirit-filled pastor should not change or alter his message unless the Spirit tells him so. Only God knows what this particular visitor needs and if the pastor who is sensitive, who listens to the soft whispering of the Holy Spirit, and who can detect the Spirit moves, he should be able to deliver a message to the congregation as well as the visitor. As a result, no one will leave church unfed.
“When people walk in we should be praying for them, praying for our pastor, and those workers who come in contact with the visitor that they will be used by God to help reach these visitors.” I suggest we also come early and pray for every chair that might be seated! The coworkers in my church do that.
Happy Easter Heather!
Heather, I am on that soapbox with you!!! I totally agree…..
That was an exceptionally good soapbox!
Good Morning Heather! Happy Resurrection Day!! I hope you have a blessed one.. hugs and prayers <3 Holly
Sounds like you were “preaching to the choir”. ON THE OTHER HAND: How amazing to see the altars lined with penetant sinners and struggling seekers needing a place to pray and have someone minister to them in the process! We would not think of having a service where we do not give people an opportunity to respond to God’s gracious love and mercy extended to all people! How amazing it is to see the grace of God poured into people’s lives who have not reluctance to respond to the message which is from God’s heart through our anointed pastor or guest. We cherish the opportunity to speak privately and as well minister in the altar to anyone who is eager to meet God in prayer. The certainty of a Spirit-anointed invitation is sure to guarantee that those who are regularly inviting visiters to our services will be assured that there will be one more opportunity to see their guest be responsive to the Spirit of God — a continuing work of bringing people we meet along the way in the week. What better place to pray than in the HOuse of Prayer — the place Jesus designated as the building (as well as our body, HIs temple) which is a HOuse of Prayer. We are eager and blessed by every person added to the congregation because of a life-response to Jesus and His gracious Spirit-work to lavish His grace in lives where sin has abounded! Being in several clubs this week, inviting dancers to come to see the Easter Drama, Jeanie brought many with her. . . knowing that some are return dancers who have come before but have decided to return to the church for another dose of the Gospel message at Easter. IN fact, she was asked by one of the bouncers at the club if we were doinging anything special at our church this weekend so they could come! The invitation was in the gift she left with each of the dancers at 3 clubs and another restaurant. We looked for them. . . and were glad that REggie gave a powerful invitation as part of the drama. . . and that the love shown to visiters was the same as always . . .and that we were grateful that our pastor gives us opportunity to respond to the messages — and that visitors are not cohersed into coming to the altar. . . but are encouraged to respond to the voice of the Spirit who is ‘drawing’ them to Jesus! Yes, a place of prayer is an amazing thing to find when you have never known there was one. And when you are ready to respond to God — it is great that repentance CAN be public or private . . . but it is always before an all-knowing God who will use anytime, anywhere, anyone as His instrument of Divine purpose — and will not even ask us if it is okay what we think about it. Thank God He is merciful to the one who misuses the opportunity for grace and rather uses human enticement (rather than Holy Spirit conviction) to bring a repentant one to a place of response to God.
False conversions often do more harm than good. . . but with the wrath of God sure to come some day. . . perhaps we dare not restrain ourselves from opportunities for people to respond to Jesus . . . and maybe we might be well-suited to give our entire strength and efforts of the Spirit of God in us to be evangelizing saints who edify and build up the Body of Christ and encourage those who make bold steps to bring people to Jesus. His lavish love is a magnent — but the law of God is what converts the soul. It is a good thing to see what Jesus did in bringing people to seek the Kingdom of God. . . and perhaps a prayer for the sick and a few cures might be just what He would like to do as we pray for people around the altars as they come to Him. (Soap box not intended!) It is time for the demonstration of the power of the Spirit in ways that are Christ-like — and I defer to the wisdom of the Father when it comes to evaluating the ministry of my pastor. I fear God when, like David, the Word says, “Touch not the Lord’s anointed!” When we are speaking as Christ-followers (Spirit-led and anointed for Kingdom service) we are to speak the truth in love. May our hearts continue to build up every believer in the matters of Spirit and Kingdom Harvest.
I say ‘Go for it! Do what it takes to make a place for the encounter!’ Perhaps we need to carry in our hearts the idea of portable altars . . .and then when we all kneel together before the altar of the Cross, we will be ready for every other person to come before Him as we humble ourselves in His sight. How amazing to be lifted up and exalted by God after humbling ourselves in contrition and full surrender — in the presence of God and man! It was at altars where my major encounters with God took place. I miss them when they are not there. I cherish every time I kneel before God at a place created for public praying. . . but I walk in the spirit of a yielded Christ-follower and am ready to make an altar before God anytime- anywhere — alone or when necessary, for another!
The godless perish every day. The wrath of God will be outpoured one day. The soul that sins, it shall die — not sometimes, but EVERY TIME! So, when we escape the wrath of God through an altar encounter with our Living Christ presented in the power of anointed declaration, we are face to face with our God of grace and mercy. . . and we cry out to Him in expectation — knowing that His lavish love is outpoured for all to receive.
What is there about your soap box that elicits such extensive comments? It is really amazing Heather. Blessings and Happy Easter. Many responded to the invitation given during our Easter Drama — but the actual wooden altars were removed since the staging took place clear out into the pews. . . . Yet, the altar in hearts was very real. We may never know how many responded to Jesus as the Spirit drew them to Himself. . . but the opportunity was given! Praise God. Eternity will tell. Many people in our area passed through our doors today because of Spring Break. We may never know the results. . .but we will still give altar calls. . . as long as there is day. Night comes when no man can work!
Wise words. I think our church is friendly to all visitors, I make a point of saying hi,shaking their hand. I’m sorry some folks feel unwelcomed.
i can relate to never going forward at an altar call. my father would have flipped as well. i did it once and learned. as an adult when i could have…… i still cant do it. too many memories…too much anxiety…… would be cool to be able to do it and really feel something positive tho.
jana
I hear your frustration, Heather! Perhaps if the church were doing its job out in the market place, pastors would not feel the need to rely on long altar calls!